The Naked Truth | Pillow talk: the dos and don’ts of intimate bedtime chats, and how they can help your relationship and sex life
- Honest communication between partners is one of the foundations of a successful and loving relationship
- Pillow talk builds intimacy and enhances sexual desire, but there are some subjects you shouldn’t talk about
When miscommunication takes place between couples, a common phrase that gets thrown around is, “I’m not a mind reader”. While frustrating to hear, it does raise a salient point about open communication. Communicating clearly and honestly is one of the cornerstones of a successful relationship.
Obvious point to make? Yes. Easy to achieve? Not necessarily. This kind of intimate communication doesn’t have to be done in a formal setting; it just needs to be maintained.
Sometimes when verbal communication is difficult during the day or even at night during domestic interactions such as dinner, it may be a viable option to take your talk to bed.
This is especially helpful to partners who have grown too familiar and are consequently taking each other’s presence for granted.
The bed may be the perfect “venue” as it is a familiar place where both parties can finally drop their guard (if they are willing).
Many relationship experts will tell you the importance of pillow talk as it has numerous benefits, says Sonia Samtani, a clinical hypnotherapist, life coach, and relationship and wellness coach. “Since pillow talk is done in a private setting, it means that our defences are down.