The Naked Truth | When is too much love unhealthy? How to spot the dangers and the best ways to make things better
- A codependent relationship might feel like love, but in fact it is more like a ‘neediness’ being mistaken for love, which can only lead to trouble
- Lack of self-worth and a fear of being alone are other factors, but by following some simple tips you can both grow and become your authentic selves
Romance comes in a number of different forms, and everyone has their own idea of what passes as romantic. One person’s version of love may be another person’s idea of hell, and to some the lines between romance and obsession can become blurred.
When a relationship fails to evolve or reinvigorate a couple, it falls into the trap of becoming a codependent one.
It is easy to blame the less dominant partner, but the domineering partner is just as guilty of encouraging an uneven power dynamic.
There are some clear early warning signs that indicate your relationship is heading this way, according to clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist Dr Kristin Zeising.
For example, if your partner seems eager to be available whenever you want; never says “no” to anything you suggest; and answers questions with “I don’t know” a lot because they aren’t able to come up with ideas of their own, then it is time to reassess your relationship.
Zeising explains that the root problem of people susceptible to co-dependency stems from a dysfunctional childhood.
