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The Naked Truth | How best to play ‘hard to get’ and boost the thrill of the chase – even when ‘caught’

  • Making someone pursue you can do wonders to intensify their interest, but playing ‘hard to get’ effectively is more difficult than just acting unavailable
  • If you are already in a romantic relationship and want to maintain some of the ‘chase’ there are ways to build that desire in your partner

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Playing ‘hard to get’ can be a great way to increase a person’s interest in you because the unattainable is far more desirable than what can be easily got. Photo: Shutterstock

It is a widely accepted belief that men “love the chase” even more than what awaits them at the end. If the theory is true, is playing hard to get an effective way to conquer their hearts?

Both men and women want to be valued by their partners because being wanted and desired makes anyone feel special. It is this desire from a partner that tends to make us feel secure in a relationship.

But once you “have” someone, is it possible to make them keep wanting you, or maybe wanting even more of you?

We all value the things we have fought hard to achieve or attain, and love is no exception. This is because we are proud of the efforts that we have put into something or someone that is special to us.

That sentiment is key to making the strategy of playing hard to get successful and it can be applied to most relationships.

If you want to be taken seriously or be valued by your romantic interest, many suggest that you avoid chasing them and simply act aloof, even when your heart says otherwise.

Luisa Tam
Luisa Tam has been a journalist for more than 30 years. She has held a variety of roles during her career, including working as a producer for NDR German TV, a media campaigner with Greenpeace, and as the deputy managing editor of Eastern Express. She previously worked at the Post from 1988 to 1990, before rejoining in her current role in 2015.
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