Luisa Tam

The Naked Truth | How to find ‘The One’, the perfect partner, and know when you’ve met them – even if you’re already involved

Many people look for that one person who can be there for them, someone who gets them and stands by their side to make sure they feel less alone

But remember, the only person we can truly change is ourselves. For us to meet the ideal partner, we have to become our ideal partner first

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Relationships are like being in a boat together. If you’re both rowing in the same direction the chances are you will get to your destination safely, if not you can expect trouble ahead. Illustration: SCMP

Luisa Tam

Published: 1:00am, 3 Nov 2019Updated: 1:00am, 3 Nov 2019

Many of us desperately want to find “The One”. But among the 7.7 billion people on Earth, how do we find that person or know for sure they are “The One”? Do we need to resort to “relationship hopping” until we have found that right person, soul mate or lifelong partner?

Regardless of whether you are on board with the idea – logic suggests many people could be “The One” – we have to accept that some people are just better suited to each other to the extent that they are destined to spend the rest of their lives together.

Some people pour cold water over the “love at first sight” phenomenon by saying it is neither romantic nor practical because genuine long-term relationships need hard work and commitment. Even if you have found “The One”, you still need to nurture and grow the relationship.

Love is a decision apart from being driven by chemistry or compatibility. So once you know you have found someone suitable, you must invest your love and put in the effort to make it work and last.

So does “The One” really exist? Biologically speaking, we are not built for solitude. Our very own survival is dependent on someone “having our back”.

The Naked Truth | How to find ‘The One’, the perfect partner, and know when you’ve met them – even if you’re already involved

Many people look for that one person who can be there for them, someone who gets them and stands by their side to make sure they feel less alone But remember, the only person we can truly change is ourselves. For us to meet the ideal partner, we have to become our ideal partner first

Many people look for that one person who can be there for them, someone who gets them and stands by their side to make sure they feel less alone

But remember, the only person we can truly change is ourselves. For us to meet the ideal partner, we have to become our ideal partner first