The Naked Truth | Love does not conquer all – it’s only through compromise and understanding that a relationship truly works
- In any healthy partnership sacrifices have to be made by both parties. Be honest not just with your other half, but with yourself
- If you can resolve incompatibilities and work out your differences, then you may have a shot at true romance after all; if not, so be it
Can two people who are deeply in love still be affected by issues of incompatibility? The truth is that, when two people are in love, they tend to ignore or mask their genuine feelings and flaws to please each other. They often put the other person’s happiness above theirs by making compromises or sacrifices that come at the cost of their own happiness.
Of course, this is not a viable way of living in a long-term partnership. This can breed resentment that is likely to be a detriment to the health of your relationship, especially when it comes to major issues.
All relationships require work, but sometimes there are problems such as incompatibility that cannot be fixed, even with the best intentions. In reality, love cannot conquer all no matter how hard you try.
A friend told me her fiancé called off their wedding a week before it was supposed to take place. There were seemingly no signs to indicate this was coming, she said. And what baffles her most is they still love each other deeply and she believes her ex still cares a lot about her.
They are still talking to each other regularly and their social circles overlap. But theirs just does not work as a long-term romantic relationship, and this is something she is acutely aware of, in spite of her heartbreak. Ultimately, she says, they are from two very different “worlds” and he never seemed to be able to fit in hers, despite their best efforts.