The Naked Truth | Why validation is vital in a relationship, but must be genuine and free of judgment
- We all want our partners to accept who we are and validation helps create the bond that builds each other up
- But validation without understanding can be damaging
It is human nature to be self-conscious and sometimes we need to be reassured that we are still connected with the people around us, either by seeking approval or validation in different ways.
But some people need validation more than others, and there are even those so eager to be accepted that they allow other people to dictate how they should behave or live.
Being popular and liked is a deeply satisfying feeling, especially given how important social media is to people nowadays. But going out of the way to coax others into approving you, or even worse, changing yourself to fit in with general expectations just to be liked, is pathetic.
This kind of behaviour – lacking self-worth and self-respect – spells desperation and nothing else. It is nice to have the approval of others but the way to get meaningful validation is to first approve of and respect yourself, rather than doing so to others.
However, genuine validation in a romantic relationship is a good thing.