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Manners are crucial at school, work and in friendships - and will even impress when you're on a date

We spend so much of our lives online, it can sometimes be a shock to the system when you have to interact with people IRL. Doing it thoughtfully makes everyone's day better, so be polite!

Modern life is busy. And hella stressful. But those aren't reasons not to develop and display good manners - in fact, 

It’s easy to get caught up in your own life, even when you’re out and about. With your eyes fixed on your phone screen, and your headphones blasting music in your ears, you can shut out the world. But if there are other people, even strangers, around, you are not alone, and you need to pay some attention to them, and acknowledge their equal right to enjoying their life.

This is where manners come in. Manners do not need to be the old-fashioned shows of subservience you see in a period drama. Good manners are mainly proof that you are being considerate towards others. Good manners show that you respect other people (and this is where manners will get you ahead when you’re dating – people crave respect), and in this way, make other people respect you. They don’t take much effort, they make other people’s lives easier, and will make you feel better about yourself.

The old saying “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” – treat other people how you want to be treated – is a good starting point. Here are some basic manners we should all put into practice.

Manners at home

  • Wish the people you live with good morning and goodnight, whether that’s parents and siblings, roommates or a partner.
  • Say please and thank you. They’re little words, but when someone helps you in some way, whether it’s passing the salt, or doing your laundry, acknowledge those actions and demonstrate your gratitude.

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  • Be helpful without being asked. Tidy up after yourself, make a cup of tea or coffee for your roommate when you make one for yourself, collect the mail, buy some milk if the bottle’s nearly empty.
  • Share – whether it’s food, gifts, or good news, spread the love with your friends and family. And do it without expecting anything in return

Manners when you’re out

  • Hold doors open for anyone coming in behind you, especially if they are older, have small children with them, or are carrying lots of bags. It takes an extra two seconds. It’s not going to make you late.
  • Offer your seat to elderly people, parents with babies, pregnant women, anyone with a physical disability, or anyone carrying a lot of luggage. If Keanu can do it ...

  • Respect other people’s right to hear themselves think. In other words, don’t blast music so loud that everyone knows what you’re listening to, and don’t shout when talking to your friends. You’re standing or sitting near each other. You don’t need to yell. Also, don’t swear. (People swear. But don’t do it loudly in public, it can upset people.)
  • Mobile phones are obviously a huge part of life, but look up once in a while. Don’t read it while you’re walking – why should someone else have to step out of your way? Don’t use it when you’re at a meal with other people, whether you’re home or at a restaurant, or put it on the table and keep checking. Keep it in your bag or pocket. If you’re expecting an important call, leave the ringer on. Otherwise, any messages can be answered once you finish eating.
  • Listen when other people are talking! It’s not all about you. Paying attention to someone else’s words, and being able to respond and react appropriately puts you in their good books. (Again, on a date, this can only be a good thing if you want to see them again!)
  • Be punctual. Showing up late is disrespectful.If you want to pass someone, say “excuse me”. Don’t stand right behind them huffing, or just push past.

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  • If you see a stranger struggling with heavy bags, offer to help carry one. 
  • When you need to queue, join the back, don’t push people, or push in front of people who are already waiting, and wait patiently. You’ll be at the front soon enough.
  • Cover your mouth and nose when you cough or sneeze. Not only is it rude not to, letting those germs fly everywhere spreads disease.
  • If you have a mouth full of food, don’t talk!
  • Say please and thank you!

This article was curated by Young PostBetter Life, the ultimate resource for enhancing your personal and professional life.

This article was curated by Young Post. Better Life is the ultimate resource for enhancing your personal and professional life.

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