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Malene Rydahl speaks in Paris on wellbeing and performance. The author of Happy As a Dane: 10 Secrets of the Happiest People in the World shares 10 secrets to happiness from her country, Denmark, regularly ranked among the most happy places in the world. Photo: Malene Rydahl

How to be happy? 10 keys to happiness from the author of a bestseller about achieving it – she’s a Dane, often ranked one of the world’s happiest people

  • Trust in and respect for others, modesty, realistic expectations, work-life balance and gender equality are among the things making Denmark a hub of happiness
  • On International Day of Happiness, Malene Rydahl describes the values Danish people hold dear and that make them some of the happiest people in the world
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Malene Rydahl did not realise she had been born into what is considered one of the world’s happiest countries until she moved from Denmark to Paris to become a nanny at the age of 18.

She soon discovered that values she had taken for granted at home, such as innate trust in and respect for others, independence, and good work-life balance, were not so widely embraced in other places.

She struggled to regain her happiness, and in doing so realised that it can be self-taught and comes from within.

After going on to have a successful career in advertising, marketing and public relations in France, she went in search of what really makes people happy. In 2017, she published the international bestseller, Happy As a Dane: 10 Secrets of the Happiest People in the World.

Rydahl gives a keynote address on happiness at a hospitality convention in Copenhagen in 2023. Photo: Malene Rydahl
Since The World Happiness Report was first published in 2012, Rydahl’s home country has always appeared in the top five happiest countries, usually accompanied by the other Nordic countries of Norway, Finland and Iceland.

The report, published by the United Nations, draws on data mainly from the Gallup World Poll, based on respondents’ ratings of their own happiness.

In the 2024 report, Hong Kong ranked 86 out of 143 countries and territories; its ranking has been moving steadily lower since the report’s debut, when the city ranked 64th.

“All the top countries tend to have high values for all six of the key variables that have been found to support well-being: income, healthy life expectancy, social support, freedom, trust and generosity,” according to the most recent report.

“There is a collective fantasy about happiness, that it is some kind of permanent state,” Rydahl says ahead of the annual International Day of Happiness, which falls on March 20. “We often imagine that once we’ve achieved our ideal life, with a perfect spouse, adorable children, a stylish house, a dream career and so on, our happiness will last forever.”

Rydahl with French Prime Minister Gabriel Attal and Queen Mary of Denmark. Photo: Malene Rydahl

That is an illusion, she says. “Life is unpredictable and full of surprises, good and bad. The key is to return to what I call your own foundation of well-being.”

What makes a good foundation is the million-dollar question.

In conversation with the Post, Rydahl shared the 10 values some of the happiest people on the planet espouse. Living in a particular country will not make you happy, but what you have inside of you will. So even if your country ranks low in the happiness index, there is no reason you cannot attain a 10/10 score yourself.

The cover of Rydahl’s book. Photo: www.norton.com

1. Trust

A study in 2012 showed Danes boast the highest level in the world of trusting people around them.

People with greater levels of trust are more inclined to perceive that they have better control over their lives and better life chances, according to a report from the Nordic Council of Ministers.

Trust is also regarded as an important component in promoting engagement in society, reducing criminality and increasing individual happiness.

Rydahl with France’s prime minister and minister of education. Photo: Malene Rydahl

2. Education

Denmark’s education system is tailored to develop the personality and skills of each student, not to create an elite. Education is free and accessible to all.

The system also encourages children to think for themselves and form opinions.

The 28-member intergovernmental Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) says that the human brain learns better when people experiment, participate and make their own suggestions rather than receiving knowledge passed down from on high.

Problem solving, creativity and innovation, collaboration and communication, are all qualities sought after by today’s employers. While the results of the Danish school system may not result in the highest performing students, the well-being fostered is one of the world’s best.

3. Freedom and independence

Carving out your own path in life is worth freeing yourself from a life imposed upon you by society, family or conventions.

In Denmark, young people’s independence is also facilitated by the student grant system, which awards them a grant regardless of their family’s financial situation. This gives them the freedom to choose what to study without being dependent on their parents.

Denmark’s education system encourages children to think for themselves and form opinions. Photo: Shutterstock

4. Equal opportunity

Denmark is not the best place to get rich, partly because it has a tax system that redistributes earnings, an education system that does not favour high achievers, and a culture that does not put money first.

But according to a study by the OECD, it is a lot easier to climb the social ladder in Scandinavian countries than in France, Italy, the United Kingdom or even the United States.

The Danish system seeks to reduce the gap between the lowest and the highest income earners, and with universal access to education, children from less privileged families have a better chance of going on to higher education.
When we do not expect much from a given situation, we are more likely to be pleasantly surprised in the end – and therefore happier. Photo: Shutterstock

5. Realistic expectations

Danes love the simple things in life. They rarely have great ambitions of material wealth; instead they simply take life as it comes. Since Danes do not expect to be the best, to win accolades or be admired by others, they are more satisfied with the status quo.

If they are lucky or talented enough to win something, the pleasure is multiplied by a thousand. When we do not expect much from a given situation, we are more likely to be pleasantly surprised in the end and therefore happier.

6. Solidarity and respect for others

In surveys, Danes show they are committed to the welfare state and that they are willing to fund it through taxation. This is despite the fact that the tax revenue as a percentage of GDP (gross domestic product) in Denmark is the highest in the world at 50.9 per cent.

Sharing makes people happy, provided that everyone contributes and respects the system without trying to cheat.

Family and leisure time in general are important. Danes eat dinner around 6pm and the whole family dines together – a good model for other places. Photo: Shutterstock

7. Work-life balance

On average, Danish people devote about 67 per cent of their day to personal activities, which represents around 16 hours, compared with the OECD average of 15 hours – making it the leader in work-life balance.

Rush hour in Denmark is from 4pm to 5pm, when people are leaving work to either pick up their children or do things they enjoy. Family and leisure time in general are important. Danes eat dinner around 6pm and the whole family dines together, in contrast with other cultures where children eat first and parents later.

8. Money

Danes are generally quite relaxed with money. For most, being rich is not a priority; they are happy with what they have got. Danes do not give the impression of being caught up in the rat race for money. They feel already well taken care of thanks to the welfare system, and have other priorities such as finding a meaningful job or personal fulfilment.

Success is not synonymous with financial success.

Rydahl’s book describes the 10 factors that make Denmark the world’s happiest country. Photo: Twitter/MaleneRydahl

9. Modesty

For the Danes, enjoying yourself and having fun is more important than winning.

Danish modesty can be found everywhere, from brewer Carlsberg’s slogan, “Probably the best beer in the world”, to the “roligans” – Danish football fans (rolig meaning calm or peaceful).

In Denmark, maternity leave is a joint matter extended to 52 weeks in total, which can be shared more or less as the couple wishes. Photo: Shutterstock

10. Gender equality

In Denmark, people are free to choose the right role for themselves without worrying about stereotypes or taboos.

Growing up, there is an absence of gender stereotypes, which encourages children to develop naturally and pursue what they enjoy, not what society expects them to.

Women are as free as men to pursue sex exactly as they wish. Maternity leave is a joint matter extended to 52 weeks in total, which can be shared more or less as the couple wishes.
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